The Difference Between Hunters and Seekers...

*I want to preface this by saying I am not saying not to watch (or that watching is bad or producing is bad)) any ghost hunting/paranormal show. this is a reference piece on consideration when communicating with the dead in order to create a lasting and strong relationship with the spirits around you. This article is designed for personal use when conversing with most spirits. Most spirits expect a certain amount of respect and manners.

Hello everyone,

I know it's been a very long time since my last post and I apologize. You are probably aware my various health issues so I think I'll skip along right content. I am insanely happy to be posting today an article which I've been working on for a little while.
I want to address "ghost hunting". I think the biggest problem today is that ghost hunting, by the very label, is hunting. They don't use the word seeking or searching or even probing (although I'm kind of glad they don't) but hunting. The connotations and that are insulting to anybody living or dead. People wanted that picture of a ghost, they want proof, maybe they want to make money off it or maybe just wanted for their own personal edification but either way they are forgetting several things in the way they present themselves to the living and the dead.
The dead have feelings just like we do, but those feelings can be worlds apart from ours as their needs are tremendously different to ours and their suffering differently flavored as well. Ghosts can sometimes feel more pain we can deeper, harder, colder emotional pain. They understand immortality and that big question stuff we all want to know the answers to is common knowledge to many of them. Is there life after death: absolutely. There's no doubt in my mind whatsoever that there is life after death and that life is the bulk of what we are shadow to-we are the fetus and they are the adult. They see their family suffering their loved ones hurting, and usually there's nothing they can do. People like me who can help are rare and usually mental institutions for their oddball view of this most interesting world. I don't openly say the doctors that I see ghosts because I know better, but some people are more trusting and more eager to get the word out to the masses. Maybe it's a sign of patience in me or maybe it's cowardice: whatever it is I don't think the world is ready to hear it all in one big megaphone scream. I think a lot of cultures are ready but human beings as a whole are not ready to hear that ghosts real. I don't think they're ready to see the consequences of never-ending life. Possible never-ending life. I don't know: in 1 billion years maybe spirits will die. They don't answer any questions about the future when it comes to their existence or lack thereof down the line.
So when you see one of those shows, what's the first thing you think of when it comes to their posture? For me it seems like they are approaching a dangerous lion, maybe a man eater. Their careful and act like Steve Irwin peeking between ferns at a beautiful specimen of crocodile (I am sure now he gets to really get into the study of animals without fear even though it must be hard to be without his loves) but without the respect that Steve used to so generously give to the species.
We must respect the spirit as a human would be respected. I want to list some of the things here partly as a reminder to myself… We must all retrain ourselves often to contact another: dead or alive.
1. This is their territory. For some reason they've attached to this particular place may love it or maybe they hated but they have to be there for some reason. Just like some people stay in a house they hate because maybe they can't move. What if someone were to just come in your home set up a bunch of electronic crap, which does bother them in some way on another level, and started ask you personal questions? Ghost hunters often try to dig up dirt on the spirit so that they can affect a very intense reaction from the spirit. I don't remember what the show was called, but one show prided itself on this sort of bullying of spirits in order to get a reaction. Coating the spirit by bringing up horrible events. Sure if you remind the victim of the crime was perpetrated against them, you will get a response that is much more intense than if you asked him how the weather's doing. But put together but this is their home and their pain with intruders reminding them of what keeps them fixated after death… That sort of cruelty, living or dead, will most likely elicit a response.
A. Try not to touch any objects that may be associated with spirit or the spirit territory. Just put yourself in their shoes, and try to think is this object something that they were attached to? Obviously a broken lightbulb might have less meaning than a beloved toy. If you see it all that's been well played with, assume that it is an important object and therefore don't touch it. If you must touch it touch it with respect. Even talk to it like a child would talk to it during play. Now broken lightbulb or some such similar thing, might look like it's not really poor and: but it might have been involved in the crime or event that caused the spirit great pain. So just be as careful as possible.
B. There are some rooms in the house of spirits will defend more than others. This depends on the age in which the spirit was alive, the connection the room and the spirit have (for example of the spirit died in that room), and if that room was of particular significance to that particular spirit or someone that's beloved or detested by the spirit. Of course as a whole bunch of other things to consider but I want to finish this article before Christmas. Of course most of us know that the age is important as there were different traditions during different times. For example, the kitchen nowadays might be a center of the home for the homeowners: in another time the kitchen might've been a place of business for the help and the homeowners wouldn't even step foot in it and therefore would not be an important place for certain spirits but a place other spirits would be hip deep in. I know it's a pretty crappy example but you catch my drift right? Bedrooms are very important and often for those who only had their room as their property (such as children or unmarried singles living with their family) this would be the center of their world. You can often tell this by personal touches. In some instances these personal touches are easily visible, such as carving and name into the wood of a headboard - family pictures plastering a wall - diaries, love letters, treasures, etc. these places should be treated with the utmost respect and reverence. Bathroom should be left alone for several reasons. LOL. If you want to communicate with the spirit the best room to do it in the living room or foyer. Some houses will have receiving rooms. Any room that you would invite someone into to converse over coffee and left is the place of the meeting should occur: any place that you would be ashamed or feel uncomfortable bringing anyone into for our first meeting is a place to avoid.
C. Do not mock objects, rooms, decor, smells, the state of the home or object, or anything else associated with the spirit if you wish to have a meaningful conversation and not insult or provoke the spirit. This is pretty self-explanatory, I hope, and will serve you well in your quest to meet the spirit. Spirit have all the time in the world mess around with you if you pass them off as fools. If you really want to have a meaningful conversation with the spirit or any mocking will end the possibility of anything but animosity or silence.
D. If the spirit is particularly attached to one particular object or specific part of said object: best not to touch it, best not to even look at it, just leave it alone altogether. If you need for some reason to talk about it broach the subject with reverence and patience. Offer them a gift such as a similar object for the privilege of touching it or talking about it. Ghost do like their gifts. I know it sounds strange but you don't think our ancient ancestors' offering altars for millennia were wrong? You like gifts right? Well so do they. :-)
2. Watch your language. Certain words are perfectly acceptable today that were swears in the past. It is really difficult for someone who can't hear spirits to know what age they are from. Sometimes it's impossible. Sometimes the place or object has commonly known history or history recorded in books, articles, etc. Do your research, take precautions, always use a tone of amiability and try to feel calm and at peace while talking to spirits.
A. In certain situations, you will find it helpful to craft questions before you ask them aloud. Tailor the questions as precisely as you can. What I find helps is crafting questions as if you are a political figure trying to curry favor and peace with another country. You'll notice the president's no longer point fingers as it is in assertive and aggressive mannerism. They do that weird thumb thing now… Does it have a name? Anyways:) you get the picture.
B. Be careful of possessives. If the spirit is "haunting" your home be careful not to call it "your home" "my home". If it is haunting an object , the same must be watched for carefully. There are various situations where this will provoke a negative reaction from spirit: if this object is an antique and used to belong to the spirit-this will provoke possessiveness and might even shut down the conversation entirely; if the home used to belong to them they will see you then as an intruder if you call yours; if an object you just got looks like something they used to have… They might identify it as theirs and again, become possessive. I know sometimes this makes no sense and to the object really does belong to you in today's society, or you have the deed with your name on it, but this really isn't about who owns what, now is it? No this is about communicating with something dead yet essentially just as alive as you are in terms of emotions, in terms of experience in your past and in terms of consciousness. Leave petty things behind.
C. Do not call yourself a Ghost Hunter, do not call yourself a believer, do not call yourself a paranormal investigator… You know what I mean, don't label yourself as something you are not to them. You are human being who is flesh and blood - who wishes to communicate with them. (You are your name also, so don't forget to tell them your name.) To spirits, ghost Hunter is a term to laugh at or to detest. Why? Well most of them tell me that they have seen the so-called ghost hunters in action and have tried to communicate with them to no avail. They stood in front of the cameras, they scream at the top of their metaphysical lungs at EVP recorders, they tried to get as hot or cold as possible and for the infrared, and even tackled the so-called psychics with all the energy they could muster to no avail. This drives some of them nuts as they are so eager or even suffering to get a message across. Or sometimes they are insulted and violated by the methods, words and emotions of said hunters. They feel like they are prey to an unworthy predator. They feel that they are the entertainment. That their suffering is entertainment. The fact that they can't communicate with their loved ones is being mocked. As a side note some spirits love ghost hunters! Some actually follow these hunters like groupies! Some actively look for these hunters and make it a beloved hobby. Some of the curiosity and some as a laugh! Some of them try to hone their abilities in order to communicate with the teams. They manifest in different ways and in different energies to try and get caught on tape, digital, video, psychically detected and even to freak out the members of the team. I think when I pass away this is going to be one of my hobbies!! But as you know human beings come in different flavors so as always ghost do too. Some spirits are so easy-going and mellow that I adore to have them hang around me at all times. Some spirits are so neurotic that they hang on every word in deep analysis. Anyways onwards.
D. Do not call yourself a medium or psychic unless you are one. Some spirits will mess around with that like it was their favorite sport. I have had the distinct displeasure of meeting several people who claim they were psychics who were not. I have also had the wonderful pleasure of meeting other real psychics. It is not always easy to tell who is real and who is not as their are some very good charlatans out there and some very awkward real psychics. I myself am a very nervous medium/psychic (I still need to find a good word for that) and oftentimes we get mad at myself during the reading for messing up a message, although subsequently I correct it, I get nervous twitches etc. Some psychics can see spirits that others can't, I'm not sure why but spirits say that this phenomena is akin to being on different channels on a ham radio. Some psychics have wider ranges than others, some psychics have worked harder to hone their skills and some psychics have worked harder to repress them. Bad impersonators are easy to spot as they will only cater to what the client wants to hear in order to be more financially rewarding. They will all also be very fluid and how they speak. Most psychics need time to interpret symbols or language or tone and can get very muddled up sometimes trying to untangle the message. There's no black and white - some real psychics don't know they are, and some fake psychics don't know they are not complete fakes. Enough of that for now that is a topic for another post.

3. Watch your face! If you're talking about a serious situation try not to laugh. Sometimes this is really hard because stress and spookiness can create laughter some people. Try to be true to what you're feeling and don't hide strong emotions as they will see discrepancy between your emotions and your face (and possibly your aura as some call it) and take that as deception. Some spirits are lie detectors in that they can read a lot into your being. They can even send heartbeats, magnetics, emotions you can't even feel on the surface, as well as dozens of other things. Be true to yourself.
4. Communicate considerately. Show questions in text, speak them aloud, think them, and think them in text in series. Some spirits can only see one of these things: some spirits can see them all. Another consideration is language: what language do they speak? Do they speak an old version of that language? Usually visualizations are an effective way of communicating. Visualizations in your mind and on paper double your chances of being heard and understood in concert with the second sentence of this paragraph. Keep it slow when you're talking and communicating mentally. Recording EVP while you asked them questions to quickly is also faux pas. It's all commonsense really.
5. If you're talking to a spirit try not to be distracted or distracting. Taking photographs of flash and beeping sounds while you're talking can effectively end the conversation.
6. Ghost hunters also seem to monogram their outfits when professional. That's fine. But having "Ghost Hunter" on your shirt is crossing the line a little bit, don't you think? Going further and having some derogatory term or having some gaudy or insulting graphic splat across the shirt or van or camera etc. is just a dumb idea! ;-) One amateur team I have seen used the picture of a noose around the neck of the Ghostbusters logo. You can see how this would annoy some spirits.
I hope to add to this later but I really really really want to post right now as it has been a very long time.
We are burning to get that photograph of the spirit or EVP that will change the world for the better when people understand that there is life after death! Or maybe you want money. Maybe you need that money. But the dangers of provoking a spirit are many and serious. Your life can turn into a hell if you are not careful. I have seen this happen and I will not help people that wish to hurt spirits. That photograph or other evidence of spirits should not come at the cost of hurting the spirit or at the cost of disgracing yourself and others that are seeking such evidence. Meet the spirit with dignity and kindness. If you really want evidence you need just be patient, eager and honest. It may take a lifetime but you are more likely to get it if you're humble and considerate. Spirits cannot give you that evidence easily otherwise they would have already done so many times over all over the world. Spirits would be taken as a granted in life and not as a question mark, or joke. Some spirits believe it should always be left open interpretation and belief and evidence of their existence is tantamount to destroying faith and religion. Most spirits will agree that human beings need faith and religion. Evidence is out there and has been given many times to many people. There so many fake pieces of evidence out there that it's hard to distinguish between real and fabricated.
When you have your piece of evidence what will you do with it? Will you sell it? Will you post it on YouTube? Will you keep it locked up only for you and your your loved ones to see? Will you keep it just for yourself? Will you send it to CNN or the New York Times or Fox news or a tabloid which focuses on such topics? Will you bring it to your priest, rabbi, high priestess, Imam, etc.? Will you burn it because of what it means should it be believed?
How much is it worth?
Will people believe it even if it is seemingly irrefutable? I have come up with phone numbers and postal codes, license plate numbers and rare names to people, and been correct, and still they did not believe it. Some trick? Did I do research on this perfect stranger? These questions come into their mind and change what they know to be true into a falsehood. I have shown people evidence during the reading so clear and so correct that they did believe it until family members or even they talked them out of it. Or sometimes their complete believers but then find a religion which says it's unholy so then it must be faked or evil. Or sometimes over time their memory is dulled: it seemed real at the time, but it can't be true! This happens so often and breaks my heart. Sometimes I tell them to write down the entire reading, and sometimes they do, but either they don't write it down or they lose the piece of paper and the reading was for nothing. They tell me what happened and it was exactly what the reading had said or exactly what the spirit had said but since it was on paper they assume that I am just saying I was right for reputation's sake or for pride's sake or for whatever sake and the reading said something else. I am the first to admit I'm not 100% accurate. I have given coordinates to family treasures or lost money and people do not write it down. But again I go on a tangent for another post. Always write down what a medium/psychic tells you from a reading or spiritual séance… Especially if you're paying for it! LOL. It just makes sense.
I hope this is helpful to you as it is to myself. It's good to remind oneself to communicate with respect. It's also important to know that we are fallible and accept that we will make many mistakes in our communications with the dead. We are only human. Spirits will also make mistakes in their communications with us. They are fallible as well. Ghosts are not our prey and hopefully we will never be the prey of ghosts! Do not hunt for evidence but uncover it with patience and presence of mind. We are students of what happens to us humans when our shell dies, of our soul, of our collective soul. None of us are professors in this field regardless of what anyone says… As it is truly undiscovered country for us shelled humans. We have our individual experiences but we do not have the necessary all-encompassing experiences with spirits required to be master of the dead and spirits.

I'm a student shown you my notes. Show me yours and we will compare and learn from each other. Spirits have shown me their notes but I need to read so many more! I hope to show you their notes to hear in my little blog.

Many hugs, I hope to post more often as always. Luciella.

P.S. I used Dragon dictation software…So my illness was not as much of the way as in typing. I hope this is the beginning of more frequent posting!
P.P.S.. Some words or sentences may be kinda weird, as I have not had a chance to get someone else to look it over for mistakes. Dragon is awesome for spelling, but sometimes a few words get messed up as I am in the process of training it.