Ghost Tantrums

Just like any humans, there are easy-going spirits, and their are spirits that just can't control their emotions. They take things to heart, too seriously, and make mountains out of mole hills.

Now, through the process of dying and learning the mysteries that lay beyond (if they so choose to discover, they can learn more and more) - there is a certain number of those bad people that become good people.. so the good thing about the afterlife is that there are less "morons" there, then there are living.. so breathe a sigh of relief ;)

But for those spirits who remain untouched by the miracles beyond, their time can sometimes be spent "haunting" houses, people, places, and objects. They can hold on to these things with bullheaded tooth and nail. They will, theoretically, get to the "light" place in the afterlife - but some of them can take quite a long time of nasty behavior before they get to that stage.

Ghost Tantrums are just the same as human tantrums - a lot of energy that comes from frustration, feeling like they aren't being heard, or anger. In hauntings, doors can be slammed, things can be broken, the room temperature can drop, you can suddenly feel very angry for no reason - or very afraid.. Many people that contact me with hauntings have that emotionally uncharacteristic change when the ghost is on its tantrum, and this is the ghost's broadcast of its own feelings.

What do you do when ghosts do this?

First of all, getting frustrated or angry will make the spirit angrier or it will please the spirit and consequently encourage this behavior in the future. It's best to try to "listen" to any of the emotions you feel during this time, to any words that are being projected, or to what the spirit is actually doing. If it's continuously dropping a framed picture of you and your current boyfriend - it may be a protective spirit telling you to get away from this person. If it's continuously throwing a calendar off the wall, be careful to check your calendar/agenda - are you missing something, forgetting something? If the spirit makes you feel lonely, or you feel intensely loneliness for no reason, the spirit could be feeling alone. Then you might want to talk to it, tell it to go to the light place. Or it may be telling you that you are missing a part of your life, that you need to fill. Sometimes it's a family member telling you to do something.

So, basically, find out what it wants, who it is. Or you can just tell the ghost to go away, if it feels very negative. (Personally I always find out who it is and what it wants, in case it is a family spirit.) If you don't have time to find out who/what it is, and it's just completely bothersome - do this:

In a firm yet polite voice, tell the spirit to go to the place of light, to leave you alone. Tell it you appreciate it trying to warn you, but you can't understand it - so there's no point in trying! Then, tell it goodbye.

If the tantrums persist, well it's good to get someone who can talk to spirits (me for example, or a local psychic/medium) to find out what it wants. Usually if it's just a "what does it want" - I don't charge, since it doesn't take up much time/energy on my part.

Powerful Great Grandfather

For two years I was plagued with an old man's spirit, who bombarded me with hyperreal dreams of an ex-boyfriend, visions of fear, and almost constant nagging: help my kin. Not in those words, as he didn't speak any English. He spoke Spanish, because he was Puerto Rican. This man scared me beyond words sometimes, hanging outside my window (which is on the second floor) and generally popping up in strange places, in very shocking speed and energy. A very potent spirit. He would appear as black as tar, with no facial features sometimes - and at times he even left a trail of the black stuff.. it of course was spiritual and disappeared shortly thereafter. At the time, I had no clue how to contact my ex boyfriend, it took me quite some time to find him, and build up the courage to reach out and tell him what had happened. Luckily, he's a very spiritual person, and totally welcomed this with open arms - as did his family.

As I found out more about this older male, I realized what he had wanted: he had a treasure to his name that he wanted his family to have. A specific member of the family, his great grandson. How did we know it was this man's great great grandfather? The more I described the man, and the name I gave (which shall remain anonymous here) the more the puzzle began to come together. My ex's (we shall call him Theo, as ex is cold) aunt sent him a picture of this man, then to me, and right away I could tell it was him... well, duh, I'd been seeing him almost every day for two years!!! The story began to take shape. This man was prominent in Puerto Rico, Theo's great grandfather had indeed the means to compile this treasure he spoke of so importantly.

We got together as soon as it was possible, and got more details about it. We had lots of notes, and my hand drew a map through automatic writing - I let the great great grandfather take hold of my hand and draw out what he wanted. This map was apparently quite similar to a major city in PR, and the information I gave was specific in some parts. Now, it isn't easy when the spirit doesn't speak English or French, as I can't understand Spanish very well - only what I can compile from what little Latin I know, and what words sound similar in French and English. However, the words I was able to relay to Theo's family meant something (I can't remember what it is now, hopefully they still have the notes somewhere, although Theo's informed me that the notes are lost..) and the story continued to get more and more detailed.


Theo's Grandmother could sense him too, and this man seemed to also be tormenting her.

Speaking of which, there were some darker chapters in the great-great grandfather's story. A murdered man, who also helped during the reading, as he knew a little bit of English and could help translate a few words. The Great Great Grandfather had a thick accent and was a fast talker, and the murdered man had forgiven him, but was still afraid of this G-Grandfather. Why? Because the G.Grandfather had allegedly killed him - and had never been charged with it. Although, I must point out, the G.Grandfather was not in a hell-like place, he was OK with the murder somehow, perhaps due to being sociopathic, or perhaps he had "done his time" and gotten over the guilt, I don't know.

We found details of the treasure, and the old man's spirit then started attacking Theo - as if here were angry, I think he wanted everyone to take him (the old man) seriously... and I think he also wanted to let us know that it was him that was contributing to Theo's illness. He wanted everyone's attention, and he wanted the treasure to be found.

Spirits can often do outrageous, cruel, and terrifying things to get your attention. Not all ghosts have the power to back these "threats" up, and merely telling them to get lost will do the trick.. however, some spirits do have enough energy to do damage - as this Great-Grandfather was making Theo more ill (and perhaps caused the illnesses in the first place). Part of me wonders if the damage will ever fully leave him, but I always pray/commune that he does.. and really that's all one can do in such a situation. Usually a medium worth her/his salt will be able to tell a powerful spirit from a yappy bark-worse-than-bite ghost - so it's best to consult someone. I don't charge for that kind of consultation, as it's easy, fast - and doesn't drain me, so this isn't an advert ;) Don't play DIY Exorcist!! You can just piss the spirit off more, and get yourself in a world of hurt. The angrier spirits get, usually the more they can manifest their will. Contrary to this, when spirits are at their most peaceful and joyful - they can manifest their most positive will. Usually at-peace spirits appear less often, if at all, as they have come to terms with the universe and their own purpose... and therefore understand the innate perfection of everything contained therein. I'm surely not close enough to that, but at-peace spirits have often shared their perfect bliss (albeit momentarily) with me. Stunning! Anyways, that's for another post... now I'm just rambling ;)

(To this date the treasure has not been found, but the old man has not contacted me since the "séance".) I will keep you up to date.